Description of problem: FIPS 140-3 IG requires that only EMS KDF is in use for TLS 1.2 with modules validated after May 2023. OpenSSL should have a way to require use of EMS when in FIPS mode.
This change prevents connecting to VMware servers which stops all kinds of things such as backups and V2V conversions: bug 2218721
Requiring use of TLSv1.2 with EMS is a non-optional requirement for cryptographic modules certified under current FIPS 140-3. The solution is to upgrade the openssl used by VMware. The EMS extension was standardised 8 years ago (RFC7627). If for some reason they don't want to use EMS, they can also use TLSv1.3, which was standardised 5 years ago (RFC8446).